Imagine that … You always worry that you didn’t do a good job – despite all these good words and praises you hear ??
Or that , you are afraid of admitting your mistakes – that is not you to make a mistake in first place !! Even when small mistakes happen, you feel a great regret.
Or you are from those want to align all lines they see, even if it a pedestrian line ?
Rest in peace, many are like you, and these are the specs of : The Perfectionist.
What is a perfectionist?
A perfectionist is someone who wants everything to be perfect, he/ she :
- Always waits for the right moment.
- Never makes mistakes.
- Always needs more time
But be careful: when you constantly worry about making mistakes, doubt creeps in your mind , and that would cause depression and anxiety !!
And you could be named easily, by your surroundings, as a slacker , or a loser, or lazy .. because results in all scenarios are same: Merely no result at all !!!
So how to solve this matter?
Basically and in short .. You should balance between your efforts towards achieving a task, and the world around you !! You should know you can’t change the world , but you can improve the life of yourself and others around you.
Do the efforts as a perfectionist ( hard working and caring for details ) , but avoid continuous looking at the results and evaluating them !!
You just did your best, and that is it. Enjoy !!
When you a perfectionist is asked: What his or her life is really like ? The response is likely to be :
- “If I’m not the best, then I’m a failure.”
- “I can’t ask for help, people will think I’m not good enough.”
- “I’m exhausted but I can’t relax — I always have to stay one step ahead.”
- “I never feel satisfied and nothing I do is enough.”
- “If I make a mistake it proves I’m worthless.”
- “I feel hollow, like I can never be happy.”
And to know a universal fact: There is nothing perfect in this world, nothing at all !! So relax a bit, and make a space for other matters that matters in life, like having fun, enjoying a game , play with the kids without restrictions , and others …
So how to solve this matter?
Basically , and in short, you should balance between your efforts towards achieving a task and the world around you;
You should know you can’t change the world , but you can improve the life of yourself and others around you.
It is alright to fail, failure teaches you and enriches your experience ; instead of focusing on easier subjects and tasks , to get a full score – even in your own mind only – and move away from the matters ( tasks ) that really matter !! The things which would change your and/or your surroundings lives; achieve the goals you look for in your life, things that give you satisfaction , and real self-joy.
Really, we recommend and advise you to : Make efforts as a perfectionist – always – ( hard working and caring for details ) , but avoid the inner sound that tells you to repeat things again and again, and continuously looking at the results , since you didn’t do things perfectly fine, and there is a need to change !!
Make a space, in your mind and soul, to understand that you have done your best, and things can not perfect , and won’t be in anyway ; What is done is done, and move to the coming matter / task, enjoy your life.
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